With one simple habit, you can take control of your life and also improve the most important relationship in your life.
That’s what this book is all about: confidence and celebration of yourSELF.
In a nutshell
At some level of your life, moments happen when demands of life pile up, and end up with negative thoughts, all you wanted a break from all this. 'Mel Robbins' book a high 5 habit helps you to improve to take control of your life with one simple habit.
This book answers all the following questions :
Q: Why do it first thing in the morning?
Q: Why do you high five in the bathroom?
Q: Does it work for everyone?
Q: Why does something so simple work?
Q: I’ve got real problems. How can this help me during tough times?
Q: What if I don’t feel like doing it?
Q: What if I feel like a failure right now?
Introduction
One morning, Mel Robbins stumbled into her bathroom, and without thinking, placed her hand against the bathroom mirror. Robbins high five herself and communicates self-love words.
This habit is a simple and kind gesture toward yourself, something you need and deserve.
After this enthusiastic feeling, Robbins gave herself a high-five each morning, and over time, she used this daily practice to rebuild her self-confidence.
Insight #1 High 5 habit is a research-driven holistic approach to life, this power of practice reprogram your subconscious to stop criticizing your reflection and start loving it.
It's a transfer of energy and belief from one person to another. It awakens something within you. It’s a reminder of something you’ve forgotten.
Think about how great you are at supporting and celebrating other people.
As a mother, you support your child and celebrate his joys
As a wife, you support your husband's decisions and celebrate his success
As a member of the family, you respect other members' points of views
But when it comes to celebrating and supporting yourself, you take yourself for granted and move ahead with other decisions. It's time to wake up and start celebrating your presence.
Insight #2 High 5 habit beat the struggle to love yourself even in hard times
Stop being hard on yourself. Your relationship with yourself is the foundation of every relationship you have in life. Research shows that when you’re tough on yourself, it has the opposite impact that you want it to have. It just shuts you down with a discouraging feeling. It is the reason why you are stuck.
Life is rewarding when you take chances to learn to cheer up yourself, be kinder to yourself —and that begins by practising acts of kindness toward yourself every day.
Besides celebrating for success, there is a need to celebrate for yourself, for just being you are, where you are. This habit makes you realize you have your own back. It helps you build trust in yourself and your ability to win in life.
Insight #3 A high five fulfils the deepest and most important emotional needs that are central to every human’s well-being.
We all have basic needs that are fundamental to our fulfilment, happiness, and survival. Three core emotional needs: to be seen, heard, and loved for the unique individual that you are.
Self-hatred act like a poison that kills your innate desire to be seen, heard and celebrated.
When you high five yourself in the mirror, you are fulfilling those fundamental emotional needs for yourself. You see yourself. You hear yourself saying, “It’ll be okay” “You can do it” or just “I love you.”
Insight #4 High 5 habit clear out reticular activating system filter just like dryer filter which clogged by lint.
This is how the reticular activating system works, fuzzy residues from your life, since childhood, negative experiences, opinions, rejections, disappointments, trauma, guilt and self-doubt clogged RAS in your brain. With this jammed filter, you keep repeating the same mistakes, thinking the same negative thoughts. That's why you need to practice this habit every day to clear out this filter.
High 5 habits would help you to shut up the negative voice in your head and encourage you to handle the problems much easier.
Insight #5 high 5 habit helps you out to replace your negative self-talk with a positive one.
You are judging yourself with your insecurities and negative self-talk. How the negative self-talk works when we come around with people? All the insecurities and negative thoughts are in your head and all these thoughts, you automatically project onto the other person. In this way, you start assuming the other person thinks the same as you think about yourself.
The constant need to be liked and have other people validate your decisions leads you to twist yourself and your life into knots and will keep you in careers, friendships, and marriages that make you miserable.
Stop taking validation for your decisions from others. This will keep your careers, friendships and marriages at stake. You are living a life as a lie for other people's approval.
Favourite lines from the book
Resilience is hardwired into your DNA. At the stage of baby, we learn new things without giving up. we kept trying and pulled ourselves to the best because at that stage we didn't know about negative words say to ourselves.
Take action
When you are ready to start, take the high 5 challenge
Commit to giving yourself a High five first thing in the morning for five days in a row and notice how you feel. Pair this practice with a mantra that makes you feel loved and seen. Whatever your reaction, allow yourself to feel it.
Making it a habit to do it to yourself, will change the patterns that are stored in your subconscious that relate to you—and that will improve your mood, help you achieve your goals, and fundamentally shift the trajectory of your life.
High 5 habit is a way to fix your self-love, so what are waiting for raise your hand and seal this self-love into your subconscious mind.
Wrap up
High 5 Habit is the fastest and easiest way to override your pattern of looking at yourself and feeling self-doubt and self-hatred, and replacing it with the feeling of self-love and self-acceptance. This is a book about changing the default programming that keeps you trapped in a destructive and unsupportive relationship with yourself.
High 5 habit may sound sceptical to you but the author explains the science behind this and give you the ways how to use this habit.
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